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The Gifts Of Imperfection

“Owning our story and loving ourselves through it is the bravest thing we will ever do.” Brene Brown in The Gifts of Imperfection

Brene Brown’s book entitled “The Gifts Of Imperfection” is a wonderful reminder to “Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be and embrace who you are. The book is full of human stories of people struggling to allow their world to see them as they are rather than who they are pretending to be. In her years of research on shame, she came across a population of people who were able to successfully embrace imperfection and vulnerability. They were able to show up most days in their life with a strong sense of who they are and a willingness to give life an honest shot without being obsessively attached to the outcome. They lived life to the fullest and were able to embrace the outcomes, whatever they were. They were masters of what Brene calls “Wholehearted Living”.

She lists 10 guideposts that she believes make wholehearted living easier to do. They aren’t a “to do” list but simply a life’s work, the work of the soul. Read the list below and imagine what each of them means to you. ” However afraid we are of change, the question we must ultimately answer is: What’s the greater risk? Letting go of what people think or letting go of what I feel, what I believe, and who I am. ……Wholehearted living is about engaging in our lives from a place of worthiness. It is about cultivating the courage, compassion, and connection to wakeup in the morning and think, “No matter what gets done and how much is left undone, I am enough.”

The ten guideposts she offers are:
1. Cultivating Authenticity: Letting Go of What People Think

2. Cultivating Self Compassion: Letting Go of Perfectionism

3. Cultivating a Resilient Spirit: Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness

4. Cultivating Gratitude and Joy: Letting Go of Scarcity and Fear of the Dark

5. Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith: Letting Go of the Need for Certainty

6. Cultivating Creativity: Letting go of Comparisoin

7. Cultivating Play and Rest: Letting Go of Exhaustion as a Status Symbol and Productivity as Self Worth.

8. Cultivating Calm and Stillness: Letting Go of Anxiety as a Lifestyle

9. Cultivating Meaningful Work: Letting Go of Self Doubt and “Supposed to”

10. Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance: Letting Go of Being Cool and “Always in Control”

If you would like to learn more, check out Brene Brown’s website at www.ordinarycourage.com and watch her many short videos on You Tube on imperfection, shame, and compassion.